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Not Knowing and Not No-ing (22/01/2012)

I’ve been quite stressed this week. Probably most stressed than I’ve ever been in my life before. I’ve realised that “not knowing” and having to wait is probably the most stressful thing in the world. There’s nothing you can do about it, so you just have to wait. It’s even harder when you don’t know how long you may have to wait.

There’s several times you’ll have this in your life: exam results, job interviews, medical tests, large negotiations etc. But no matter how many times you have it, if it’s something your emotionally engaged with, it never gets easier.

The thing is, your brain continues to play scenarios through in your head. Scenarios that you’re helpless to do anything about. I’m no psychologist, but I suspect your brain is planning what it can and hitting a brick wall. And so it keeps running through it over and over again in an attempt to see a way round it. But there is no way around it.

The only things I’ve managed to do so far are:

  • Try to distract myself through other activities
  • Decide on what action I’ll take if things don’t work out how I want
  • Set myself a deadline for taking action

I don’t think there’s much else I can do here, other that recognise that there is nothing I can do, put it out of my mind, and concentrate on things I can do something about.

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